Fifty-One Percent

 Recently I broke it off with my lover of a few years and foolishly told my friends.
They immediately got on me.
“What girl, are you crazy?” One said.
“That brother was fine, have you lost your mind?” Another said.
“Shit girl what did he do?” The third asks.
“Fucker was a cheater,” the fourth said.
I simply smiled at them and said. “No, he wasn’t cheating and I haven’t lost my mind.”
“Shit, if you don’t want him, I’ll take him. Fine as the brother was, you must have lost it.” The second friend said. She is not a true friend.
I knew she had wanted my man from the jump,but she never spoken on it until now thou. She might have even tried him for all I know. But hey,that wasn’t the reason I broke it off with him anyway.
” Then why did you give that brother up?” The first one asked me.
We were at Mac-a-deeds eating lunch and using the free Wi-Fi.
I simply said sipping on an ice tea.   “He wanted fifty-one percent.”
They all nodded with understanding except the Bitch that wanted my man.

Now for those of you, who do not know what Fifty-one percent means let me school you on some thangs.
My Aunt gave me some advice when I was about sixteen.
She told me that love is never fair nor is it ever even.
She had gone through some hard times with men and had learn a hard lesson she was welling to share with her young niece who was out to find love in a world that’s full of hurt and pain.
“Love a man that loves you more than you love him,” she said.
I asked her why?
“Women,” she told me, “as a whole give all of themselves. All of their heart, mind and soul to a man, wither he’s a good man or not, wither he desires it or not. It’s innate in us to love that way. We always give Fifty-one percent. When we do, more often than not, we are the ones that end up hurt with baggage. So we must consciously be aware of how and to whom we give our Love.

“In being aware we must asks ourselves one question.Are we welling to surrender something precious, offered freely, in the hopes that the Love we feel we be reciprocated?
Always aware that what’s offered might come back to us broken filled with regret, heartache and pain.
If the answer is yes, then give the Fifty-one percent, because a life full of love is a precious thang indeed, but if the answer is no, the Love you feel is not fully reciprocated than give forty -nine percent that way your heart will always recover to seek love again without bitterness and baggage.”

I understood that because love is never fair and it’s never even, and one of you will always love more than the other in a relationship.
Be aware of this and don’t go into a relationship blind.
Listen to what he’s telling you Ladies and understand what he’s offering and guard yourself.
If at all possible, be the forty-nine percent until the answer truly is yes.

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